You’ve heard how John Key referred to Kim Dotcom as Laila Harré’s ‘Sugar Daddy’.
It’s also a song by the Jackson 5:
The whole world’s talkin’ ’bout
How I’m your Standby Santa Claus
The suggestion of Sugar Daddy is usually that an older man is funding the material lifestyle of a younger woman in exchange for access to unrestricted sex. The further implication is that the older man cannot obtain sex in any other manner than to purchase it.
To legitimize his need, he takes on a full-time and willing employee. I mean, who wants to end up like Sting, sneaking around and getting caught out in brothels? You’d be better off to have it all out in the open. As it were.
John Key, you’ve got it wrong again. Kim Dotcom is 40 years old, making him younger than Harré by eight years. In fact John, you would have been better to refer to Harré as a ‘cougar’ and Dotcom, a ‘badger’. Please, if you are going to blurt out sexual stereotypes, make sure they are correct sexual stereotypes.
Is John Key sexist and offensive in what he said?
Yes, he is.
There are other ways to elucidate Key’s idea that Harré’s salary is paid by Dotcom.
The point that is being missed here is that Harré is a seasoned politician with a raft of experience in legislation, dealing with pundits, and making political statements that aren’t based on gender.
Women like me, we try to stay calm in the face of the grotesque area of dyed-in-the-wool sexism. We try not to inflame, react, stress out, as often that is the exact reaction that is sought. We try to carry on in such an environment in a way that shows we are not going to equalize comments like this with cheapness.
But for the PM to talk like this, publicly?
Retraction needed, even if you aren’t really sorry.